I am ecstatic to report that we got the house!!! Checking this box has freed me to focus on other aspects of this move.
We have about two weeks until the movers come and three and a half weeks until we fly off to our next posting.
I had the opportunity to spend time with some of my favorite people here yesterday. In our conversations we were talking about how often the primary parent in expat situations is significantly impacted because of how our society recognizes value.
We all agreed that a significant portion of society recognizes value based on money. For a variety of reasons it is often the case that one parent may not be able to work for a variety of reasons and therefore becomes the parent who is responsible for a lot of the heavy lifting.
We also agreed that even though society says that parenting is important many times it feels as though society doesn’t truly value the role of a present and connected parent. I know this struggle so well and I have talked to so many parents over the years who feel the same thing.
From all the work I have done with parents and children along with all the research I have studied and read, I know that parenting matters. The way parents show up matters in so many areas, one area that I have been reading about recently is bullying and in these instances present parenting matters.
As we are wrapping up our lives and looking forward to the next adventure, I am reminding myself that all that I am doing, how I am showing up, and who I am to my kids matters. The same goes for you; you matter, and the work you are doing, because even though there is no salary or monetary gain in parenting, it is a job that matters.
Wishing you a great week ahead.
Pssstttt…..don’t ever doubt that the love, care, attention and connection you give to your kids matters. Sometimes it is easy to dismiss the value and importance of sometimes meaningless gestures, sin the grand scheme of life, these mean the most. You are amazing and your kid is so lucky to have you!