As few weeks ago one of my kids attended a birthday party. The hosting parents spent a lot of time and attention in providing numerous games and activities for the kids to enjoy. They had a piñata, which is always a party hit.
As the kids lined up full of excitement to get their chance to break the piñata and grab some loot, I couldn’t help but picture the tears that I had seen so many times before.
Kids, candy and no rules, chaos always ensues.
This got me thinking, do piñatas help kids build the necessary life skill of resilience?
Experts agree the best ways to build resilience are:
• Help your child to identify and manage strong emotions.
• Support and connect with your child but don’t try and avoid all pain or discomfort.
• Avoid predicting and preventing problems for your child.
• Build your child’s self-compassion.
• Celebrate your child’s effort instead of the outcome.
• Encourage your child’s to problem-solving
• Help your child build connection with others.
Helping your child build and strengthen these skills in an environment that feels safe and free of judgment is helpful. As parents is it is important to be thoughtful and considerate as we help kids navigate and strengthen these vital skills.
One of the most helpful things we can do when helping kids navigate these emotions is have a good understanding of our own emotions. One thing I know for sure is that our reaction to our kids emotions tell them more than any piñata ever could.
I’d love to hear from you about what skill or area of growth you struggle most helping your child manage, build or strengthen. Just hit reply on this email.
With respect and gratitude.