A really brave mom reach out to me this week. Life had gotten chaotic in her household and she wasn’t able to manage the stress anymore. She sees how it is impacting her mentally, physically and emotionally.
She shared with me that her four tween and teen sons all pick at each other, annoy one another to a point beyond frustration and as she said “they do it on purpose”.
They make rude comments towards each other, they don’t respect each another’s things. The fighting feels non stop and she is exhausted.
The only time there seems to be any harmony in the home is when they are playing video games or sleeping.
She admitted that she is losing her cool constantly, they are mimicking her dysregulated behavior. She reached out for support because she knows it is unhealthy it is for her and her entire family.
She she admitted to me that she sometimes cries in the bathroom alone. She feels like her sons don’t care about her feeling and she is heartbroken.
In our conversation we started to look at what some of the behaviors that is causing the all the dysregulation (chaos) in the house. We talked about her support system and how she was making sure some of her own needs were met.
We talked about how different brains function different ways. We talked about how transitions can impact nervous systems and how in a house with six people it is critical that everyone work together as much as possible.
She agreed that a household reset would be very beneficial for everyone. She fully agreed that investing the time, money and energy would be so beneficial for her family. Even though she wanted overnight change she knew it wouldn’t happen but that nothing would change if she didn’t change.
So she committed to making changes in her family because she could see a positive future without some major changes.
Reaching out to find someone to help you with challenges in your family can be challenging but it is also deeply brave.
I am so proud of this mom for taking the steps to build deeper connection with her family and in her home.
If you are struggling connection in your home I encourage you to find the right person to help you and your family. Allowing someone into the messy parts of our lives is scary but finding the right person can make all the difference.
I have two spaces opening in my practice. If you are struggling and looking for some extra support drop me an e-mail I’d love to chat with you.
With respect and gratitude.
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